A long day, over scheduled, tired mama keeping it together until the garage door opens. In he walks, hoping for the smiling faces, warm embraces, and the imminent smell of dinner. Instead, he walks into a pressure cooker. He already knows he is in for it and immediately wants to be anywhere but home. His home is no longer a safe haven from the world it is a place of discord and tension.
Yes, I am guilty of being that wife. I am guilty of nagging him until he relents, treating him as if he is inferior, and throwing all his shortcomings at him (exaggerated and imaginary ones at that). Shameful! I have seen the tension and pain this has caused him and my family. I don’t want to be THAT wife. So how do I strive to be the wife my husband deserves?
First and foremost I meet with God daily and pray that I would be a wife of noble character (Proverbs 31:10-31). We pray for our family or for so-and-so to change, but really we need to be in prayer for God to help us change our hearts. Secondly, I can’t expect my husband to be my god. If you hold your husband responsible to be your everything-he will fail you and let you down, daily. Give him grace and trust that God will meet all your needs (Philippians 4:19). Respect him. It can be tough, but a man would rather be respected than loved. God doesn’t tell us to respect our husband only if he (name any expectation). God calls our husbands to love us and for us to respect them (Ephesians 5:33). Lastly, prepare for him to come home. 20-30 minutes before he gets home have the kids help you tidy up, comb your hair, brush your teeth, get dressed, do something that makes you feel pretty (make-up, perfume, jewelry, etc). Get the kids excited. A few minutes before he arrives home tell them something like “Hurray, daddy will be home soon, who’s excited? Who will be the first to give daddy a big hug?” or something like that. When the kiddos are excited chances are you will be too!
Just think of the power you have to set the tone of your home. When your husband is greeted by a cheerful wife chances are this man will do just about anything you ask of him. Believe it or not, he really does want to please you, you just have to go about it the right way.
Give it a try and see what a positive difference it makes not only in your marriage but in your family.
~Be Blessed and be a Blessing~
Rebecca
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